FALL-WINTER 2018 . ISSUE NO 1
NO 4 01/02/2019
ONDE SENSUELLE

The codes for love have changed. And with them, the rules for seduction. A how-to guide which combines the art of subtlety, sensuality and body language.
DID YOU KNOW THAT 60% OF COMMUNICATION IS NON-VERBAL BODY LANGUAGE? AND THAT WE ARE CAPABLE OF PRODUCING 700,000 DIFFERENT PHYSICAL SIGNS AND NO FEWER THAN 250,000 FACIAL EXPRESSIONS.

A sweet smile or glance, a hand run through your hair or a romantic tousle of your partner’s locks, a timely cross of the legs, or an elegant tilt of the head are just some of the tried and tested signals favoured by femme fatales. Such gestures say a lot about our intentions. And our senses. From subtle body language to little touches that fire up and unleash our imagination, codes for love are evolving, offering new ways to attract and express our individuality,. The very essence of sensuality.

For anthropologist David Le Breton,* sensuality is “one of the key features of seduction, a unique signature that elevates you above the mundane (...); it’s not about giving yourself but more about registering and asserting your presence. A gesture, a look, an attitude; this is basis of sensuality. And it’s more natural that you think. It may simply be concealed under a veil of shyness. Finding this “wave of sensuality” allows us to express our pleasures and desires, exploring our imagination so we can better share our fantasies. Learning to nurture this sensuality becomes instinctive, providing us with a great sense of freedom that we can incorporate into game play.

A game of seduction, obviously, but one that boosts your self-esteem and enhances your beauty confidence, both inside and out - so you can savour the delights of the here and now. And summer is the perfect season to test it out, elevating the codes of seduction to a genuine art form. So, are you ready to take charge?
“Seduction is like a well choreographed dance. Whether meticulously planned or improvised, it’s a dance of signals and codes to which women alone hold the key; a dance that culminates in dates and courtship rituals. “


Let’s start with something fun, original and a little bit retro to surprise your beloved: a handwritten love note. A genuine love letter. A delightful prelude to something more intimate! Take time to compose a handwritten note, arranging to meet him, and slip into his jacket pocket. It’s a charming idea. And very intriguing. What else might you have planned for him? He’ll be mulling over this question all day and when the time comes he’ll be hanging on your every word. The romantic spark will be lit, paving the way, quite naturally, for a game of seduction: a conversation, or the opposite - silence - a tender smile, a mischievous look, a sulky pout -- any excuse will do! And then, finally, a hand brushes against your arm ... The touch of skin and a slow caress signal a prelude to intimacy and a chance to explore one another.

For David Le Breton, touch conveys something immediate, tangible and adds to the spice of life. It hints at fulfilment. “Intimacy is within reach, delicious and full of promise. Body language can then take over, subtly working its magic at a pace determined by both partners. “Vision is about aesthetic beauty, about adornment, display and the pleasure of being yourself” explains the anthropologist. A hint of lace, laces waiting to be undone, the sound of rustling silk, a carefully guided hand: the beauty and appeal of a movement that you alone can decide.
A pleasurable act that hits the spot, heightening your beauty confidence, making you feel uniquely seductive. But when it comes to the codes for love, certain key elements remain: a gentle prelude to passion, combining subtlety and sensuality, to be revised and adapted depending on your mood or fantasy.

Today such codes can be enhanced by a playful, new lexicon of love: Writing words with one’s body, a gentle caress, lightly repeated, suggesting infinite pleasure - new games of seduction that become a ritual. Games that help forge a bond that gets stronger by the day. Games with just one rule: freedom - the freedom to seduce and be seduced. *La Saveur du Monde, une anthropologie des sens (Sensing the World: An Anthropology of the Senses. Publisher: Métailié, 2006).